Are you ready to hear about more coaching strategies?
Do you wonder if your communication patterns get in the way of creating trust with others?
Would you like to see if you are a rescuer who could hinder progress in others?
Ouch! Hopefully, the questions above piqued your interest. 🙂 If so, you are in the right place. 🙂
Last week you read about the work of Michael Bungay Stanier on the TELL IT Communicators. I described the TELL IT Communicator from Michael’s class during the World of Executive and Business Coaching Summit.
Here’s a link to Part 1: Coaching Strategies to Improve Your communication – Big Time!
Michael Bungay Stanier shared that there are 3 types of communicators: Tell IT, Save IT, and Control IT
This article is about the SAVE IT Communicators.
Coaching Strategies #1: SAVE IT Communication Challenges
- Save IT Communicators are rescuers
- They keep others from making mistakes
- Listeners resent SAVE IT Communicators because they become codependent and don’t know how to stop the SAVE IT Communicator
- They have all the answers
Coaching Strategies #2: SAVE IT Communication Benefits
- They are heroes because their purpose is to save everyone from imperfections
- SAVE IT Communicators think they are helping others from making mistakes
Coaching Strategies #3: SAVE IT Communication Solutions
- Stay curious and do your best to stop rescuing everyone from making mistakes
- Realize that success consists of falling down and taking risks
- Think before you open your mouth
- Ask yourself if your words help or hinder the success of others
- See how your new behavior encourages self-growth and autonomy
Joyce, What Do You Think About SAVE IT Communicators?
Full disclosure. Drum rolls, please. I am a SAVE IT Communicator. I discussed this awareness with a couple of coaching colleagues. We discovered that all 3 of us are Save It Communicators. We also realized that it’s time for a change. I am NOT any of these communicators when I coach with clients or in my virtual courses.
My personal life is another story. I decided to make a change and took this awareness as a gift to myself. The last couple of weeks have been more relaxing for me and my family. I have stopped saying, ” It’s going to be cold, so you better take your jacket.” No More Mrs. Nice Gal!” Let’s face it, it’s up to us to take care of ourselves. Our family consists of all adults. No more babies or teens to rescue for this MASTER Coach! My family has started taking their own jackets. They appreciate the fact that I’m changing – of course, I told them about this and we discussed their patterns also. Hey, it’s only fair, if I change they need to work on their growth also.
Self-awareness is a great first step towards progress. The good news is once we discover our communication style, we can then make important changes. Some of them are easy while others are not. I promise, there will be more information on these important coaching strategies to add to your toolbox.
Let’s Hear From You
Let’s hear how you feel about these coaching strategies. Do you see SAVE IT Communicators in your workplace or home? If so, please share your awareness and how this communication style stifles creativity, trust, and growth.
I suggest that you talk about the 3 communication styles after I describe the last one next week. This can be a great exercise for your department or family. When you have open-minded people, this will work really well. If you have one negative person, wait until that person is not present, or else he or she can ruin the results with their sarcasm and negativity.
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Just think: No more
- Not being heard
- Unresolved tough conversations
Have a great week.
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
The Queen of Conflict Resolution