Workplace Bullying is a topic that my clients are asking me to address for their training initiatives. Bullies are really 2- year- olds disguised in adult clothing. This article will give you 3 ideas on how to deal with workplace bullies. I will be sharing numerous videos on bullying in the next few blog posts. Make sure to send me your own experiences because believe me, you are NOT alone!
- Were you bullied as a child?
- Did you fight back or just take it?
- Is there someone at work who is a bully to you or others?
- Does your organization deal with bullies in the workplace?
These questions are ones that are coming up more and more when I talk to clients. They see an increase in workplace bullying and they don’t know how to stop this conflict in the workplace.
Workplace Bullying Idea #1: Fear and Intimidation at Work
The mean boys or girls grow up and become even meaner as adults…especially if no one confronted this negative behavior. Fear and intimidation become part of their daily routine even if they are in leadership roles. Yelling, swearing, ignoring, demeaning others in front of employees, etc are all ways for bullies to control others. It works because most people don’t know what to do. I’ve been researching this subject lately to find new data to share with my clients. I will write future blogs on the danger of NOT dealing with bullies.
Workplace Bullying Idea #2: An Actual Example From a Client
Debbie called me for me to help her deal with someone on her board who was bullying her. Debbie’s boss appreciates her and is pleased with her performance because she steadily raises money for the organization. Her boss knows about Sean, a board member who continuously demeans her. Debbie called me at the suggestion of her boss. Debbie has 100% support from her boss who wants her to take care of Sean on her own terms. Sean also micromanages Debbie. Debbie and I worked on a few techniques.
Workplace Bullying Idea #3: Examples That Worked for Debbie
I don’t want to be belittled. I do want to maximize and collaborate our different skill sets, connections, and experience in raising as much money for our organization as possible.
I’m overwhelmed when I don’t get things done in a timely manner because it is not a professional reflection on our team.
I’m frustrated when I’m micromanaged by someone other than my boss because I have a proven track record of success.
Click here for more examples of the Power Talk Formula. Is is a short video with some great techniques.
Sean folded his arms at first and did not respond. The next board meeting his behavior changed and Debbie left a message on my voice mail at midnight because she was thrilled that she was able to turn things around. It is a risk to speak to a bully. At times things actually get worse especially when the are narcissists! With practice and support, we can all discover ways to resolve these issues.
I want to hear from you!
Feel free to send me your questions or concerns either on my blog or to my email if you want more privacy. I enjoy hearing from my readers plus they get their questions answered. Let me know what topics you want me to write about concerning your own conflict in the workplace “issues.” Let me know if you are working with a bully or if you are one yourself. Cicero said, “Where there is life, there is hope!” 🙂
Until next time,
This is Joyce Weiss, Communication Strategist and Coach
You can start tackling tough conversations with bullies, different generations, and even narcissists once you learn the powerful strategies. I will do whatever it takes to help you improve your quality of life.
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