This week’s theme is Self-Care. I listen to my favorite podcasts such as Brene Brown’s “Unlocking Us” or Whitney Johnson’s “Disrupt Yourself”. It’s obvious that self-care is a hot topic.  Google Trends shows that searches for self-care have doubled since 2015.

Taking care of yourself is not being selfish. I find that many of my clients feel guilty when others “try” to put them down for setting boundaries. It’s all about protecting yourself. All of us have different ways to do this.

Self-care means taking care of yourself so that you can be healthy. Plus you can do your job and be there for others. 

This article is the first in the series: Self-Care Rocks! Clients shared the scenarios below on how others judged them just for taking care of their needs.

Self-Care Scenario #1

Jim was invited to a party during the height of the pandemic. His friends didn’t know that Jim had an auto-immune disease. He chose not to tell others since he was at the beginning of working with his doctor. Jim told his friends that he was not going to the party because there were going to be over 100 people attending the event. His friends called Jim “nervous nelly.” And, they told him to lighten up.

The reality is that Jim felt guilty. He wanted to go yet decided self-care was more important to him. We discussed this situation during a coaching session. It didn’t take Jim long to figure out that his friends could say what they want. Additionally, Jim felt totally in control and put his shoulders back and spoke confidently when his friends attempted to tease him. 

Self-Care Scenario #2

Sue was upset during a coaching session when she expressed a tense situation with her cousin Kim. Sue is very close to Kim. They used to see each other for weekly dinners. It dawned on Sue that she still loved Kim, yet she was tired of Kim’s negativity. Kim’s drama was getting out of control.  We discussed how Sue can still be close to Kim. Additionally, she decided to meet with Kim only once per month and not weekly. Self-care is something that Sue ignored for her entire life. Sue felt like a huge weight was lifted after our session. 

Sue had an open conversation with Kim on how close she felt to her cousin. Kim appreciated Sue’s openness. And, she thanked Sue for letting her know. Kim didn’t realize how she was turning more negative as a result of poor choices for partners and jobs. 

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Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
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