Video #5: The GAP and Triggers to Protect Yourself From Bullies in the Workplace

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Do you know how to control yourself when bullies in the workplace push your hot buttons?

Welcome to the series Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the  Workplace.  This video gives you 2 strategies on how to protect yourself from bullies.

If you missed any of the previous videos, please click the links below:

Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace
Video #2:  Are you a Target for a Bully
Video #3:  Why Bullying Happens
Video #4:  Does Your Organization Handle Bullies?

Bullies in the Workplace Strategy #1:  Use the GAP 

• The GAP helps us make a choice on how we react
• It’s a space that we give ourselves to think about our response before we open our mouth
• Get into the GAP instead of automatically responding
• Recognize when you are angry and get into the GAP
• Separate yourself from the criticism
• Don’t take it personally

Bullies in the Workplace Strategy #2:  Know your Triggers

• Be aware of who sets you off
• People do irritating things because that’s who they are – not because of who we are
• Prepare yourself before you see your trigger who drives you crazy
• Remind yourself that you don’t have to push back
• You can decide how to react

More Thoughts from Joyce

The GAP and knowing your TRIGGERS are 2 powerful strategies that get me through many professional and personal gatherings.
There are certain people who drive me crazy.  I am human! 🙂  I know who these people are and prepare myself to leave the conversation earlier than I did before and take a deep breath to remind myself that I don’t need to get sucked into their negativity.  Clients thank me for these 2 ideas since they work!

Please contact me at 800.713.1926 to explore options for working with me as your private coach.  Find your voice with Joyce is one of our new taglines.

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This is Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist

Have a great week.

Until next time, remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

If you missed any of the previous videos in the series, please click the links below:

Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace
Video #2:  Are you a Target for a Bully
Video #3:  Why Bullying Happens
Video #4:  Does Your Organization Handle Bullies?