If you ever are in one of my training sessions you will probably hear me saying, “Don’t walk away from negative people…Run!”
Why? 
Negative people are…
- toxic
- boring
- dangerous
- energy drainers
Is that enough already?
They wallow in their problems and don’t focus on solutions. They want to suck us in and join their PITY PARTY so they feel better about themselves. The interesting thing is that most people want to run away from them, but never think that they can. It’s human nature to feel obligated to listen to complainers because we don’t want to be rude. How about giving this a new spin…They are being rude and taking your valuable time while sucking all of your energy. There is a fine line between listening to someone who is complaining and getting pulled into their toxic behavior.
The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any!
Joyce, How Can I Put a Different Spin on the Negativo?
You can avoid getting drawn in by setting limits and distancing yourself from them. One of my clients gave me this brilliant idea. If you are a non smoker and a person is smoking, would you sit there all afternoon inhaling the secondhand smoke? Of course not. You’d distance yourself. You need to start doing the same with complainers. Of course if you run away from a negative person and they continue to follow you, I strongly suggest that you have the honest and tough conversation by using Be Direct with Respect®.
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