This week’s post describes changing our attitude to feel more confident. I know this is nothing new! It’s all about attitude!
You can use these ideas if you have bullies in your family too.
The better we feel about ourselves, the fewer times we have to knock someone down to feel tall!
– Odetta, American Singer and Actor
I want to give bullies Odetta’s quote – wouldn’t you?
Tip #1: Your Attitude Affects How You Handle Workplace Bullies
Brad, my coaching client, practiced making conversations safe with me before he had the tough conversation with his bully.
Brad’s bully listened to him after the interaction. This bully was not aware that his words hurt others. No one had the nerve to speak with him. Brad did, and the bully now has respect for him.
Instead of saying, “Why do you like insulting our team members?” Brad changed this to, “Let’s discuss how we can communicate better with everyone on our team.” The bully was included in the conversation. Everyone felt safe and discussed solid solutions. A win/win was the result.
Tip #2: Create a Plan to Handle Workplace Bullies
What can you do to change your attitude?
- Stop complaining about the bully to others who can’t help you
- Create a plan on how to start the conversation
- Go to leadership or Human Resources
- Practice the communication skills you learn here
- Look up past posts in the search section.
Here’s a disclaimer! It’s always a risk to have tough conversations. At least you tried! You didn’t stand still and take this difficult person’s constant sarcasm or criticism.
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Have a Great Week
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution
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