Do you work or live with a person who exhibits passive-aggressive behavior?
Are you ready to find out how to communicate with this person in a productive way?
If so this video below is just for you.
Several coaching clients have discussed their challenges dealing with passive/aggressive behavior with either family or colleagues.
I need to be clear that there is passive-aggressive behavior, not people.
This makes it less personable and more manageable.
Definition of Passive-Aggressive Behavior
Passive-aggressive behavior is expressing negative feelings indirectly instead of openly talking about them.
Additionally, they may feel angry, resentful, or frustrated. But they act neutral, pleasant, or even cheerful. Plus they find indirect ways to show how they really feel.
Do these 3 examples sound familiar to you?
1. A girlfriend was mad at her boyfriend, Bruce. She didn’t tell him that she was upset.
Her passive-aggressive behavior was blasting the volume of the music which was unbearable for Bruce to hear.
Bruce is my client and we discussed this challenging behavior. He now realizes that he needs to speak directly to his girlfriend when she shows these tendencies.
2. An aunt said the following to her niece, Kate: “Kate, I like your new haircut because it makes your face slimmer.”
During our coaching session, Kate practiced how to answer her aunt in future conversations. Kate now understands this behavior. She communicates with her aunt directly and lets her know that comments about her weight are hurtful.
3. Lisa, An HR professional discussed her frustration with a direct report, Jim who was always late to meetings. We explored Jim’s passive-aggressive behavior.
Additionally, Lisa told Jim that he is not invited to future meetings because his behavior is demoralizing to the team. Jim was given one more chance and he caught on very quickly.
Let’s Stay Connected
Please comment about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
Please comment on how you deal with passive-aggressive behavior in your life.
What are your questions about this frustrating condition?
Stay tuned for the next week’s video which will cover the reasons why people become passive-aggressive, coaching questions to ask them, and how to deal with them.
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