The timely quote about doubt by William Shakespeare holds true today.
- Do you doubt yourself?
- Does this happen often?
- How do you stop doubt from stressing you out?
Let’s go deeper!
Timely Quote Tip #1: Do You Doubt Yourself?
I can see many of you shaking your head up and down. Of course, we all doubt ourselves at times. In fact, this can be good or bad. First, it’s bad if doubt stops us from moving forward. On the other hand, it’s good if doubt forces us to feel the fear and do it anyway.
Motivational Speaker, Tony Robbins came to Detroit, over 30 years ago. I was starting out at the beginning of my career. Tony talked about doubt for an entire day.
The next day he spoke about strategies for putting our fear into power. Imagine if you were me, eyes wide open. And willing to take any risk to get me unstuck. Was I really ready to become a corporate speaker?
Look for a link at the end of this article for a story that describes my experience with Tony Robbins even more. 🙂
Timely Quote Tip #2: How Often do You Feel Doubt?
Back to Tony Robbins training. The next day, he asked over 1000 participants to think about how often doubt stopped us. Especially, from achieving our goals.
As a matter of fact, I raised my hand immediately. And told Tony that doubt isn’t a big issue for me. Additionally, I said, that when doubt appears in my life, I question the validity. Is this really fear or:
F: False
E: Evidence
A: Appearing
R: Real
Tony said some great affirmations and it seemed like he spoke only to me. 🙂
Timely Quote Tip #3: How Do You Stop Doubt from Stressing You Out?
Tony’s real message came on the last day of the training. In fact, he invited all of us who were ready to risk, to walk on hot coals. And overcome our fears. As a matter of fact, I was not one of the first ones to get up and say, “I’m ready, Tony!”
I thought I was ready. Until he looked at my eyes. He said, “not yet, you need to work a bit more on your self-doubt.” I watched others walk across the hot coals. And saw the glee in their eyes when they were done. I wanted that too!
So, dear readers, did I walk or not? The final answer is…YES!
It took another 30 minutes to remind myself that I trusted Tony. The biggest issue with doubt is to start trusting ourselves more.
I use this analogy in my coaching practice. Clients who doubt themselves need to know that they are not alone. I share how I overcame certain fears in my life. This gives them hope that their coach is a human being also with fears, doubts, and conflict. 🙂
The good news is that this ‘coal walking experience” still influences me today.
I hope it will give you that little push the next time doubt stops you from trying something new. Ask yourself if it’s a real fear or “false evidence appearing true!”
Let’s Stay Connected
Please share your thoughts about this week’s post.
- How does Shakespeare’s timely quote resonate with you?
- When has doubt stopped you?
- What do you do to stop doubt from stressing you out?
- Have you read any of Tony Robbin’s books?
You can share your thoughts in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.
Read more about my personal story about Tony Robbin’s Fire Walk Experience HERE
Until Next Time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution
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This means they are confident to use their voice – without losing their cool.
P.P.S. Do you know young adults in high school or college who need to discuss their doubts, career choices, and timely issues. A couple of my clients asked me to coach their young adults. The results were gratifying. And it only takes a few sessions.