Chronic complainers are everywhere these days! Sure, we feel empathy for others who complain about health, relationships, or work. And there are other times when the complaints are so outrageous that we want to walk away or yell at the other person. At least I do! 😊 
Story 1 About Chronic Complainers
I was at a restaurant the other day and heard the following conversations:
“My house is so dusty, and I can’t wait for the construction crew to leave!”
You may be thinking so, Joyce what’s the big deal? The complainer is so lucky to have the resources to have her house remodeled. Dirt and dust are part of the reality when we have home improvement projects. It is what it is.
Story 2 About Chronic Complainers
At another table, I heard a person say, “I’m not looking forward to going home because I have to pack for our 3-week cruise.”
Again, you may be more tolerant of complainers than I am. This traveler is fortunate to go on such a luxurious vacation and packing is part of the equation when one travels. It is what it is! These 2 friends are perfect for each other.
So, Joyce, What are You Saying?
Complaints reveal a lot about the person who is speaking. We all know spoiled adults sounding like 2-year-old children and who are inconvenienced.
They don’t do well when either large or small changes happen in their life. It’s stressful if we work or live with people like this.
Of course, we all can turn into complainers at times. We are all human. I’m talking about chronic complainers.
Joyce, Please Give us a Tip on How to Deal with These Chronic Complainers & Whiners
Here are some options for dealing with chronic complainers: 
- Validate the person by saying, “That must be tough.”
- Repeat the complainer’s situation and maybe they will come up with a solution {it’s possible 😊}.
- Ask the complainer if you can give your opinion. You can ask, “What other reasons could George have been promoted and not you?” They may help the complainer to get out of the victim role if you are lucky.
- You always have the right to express how you have a meeting in 5 minutes if you have done your best to listen and the victimization goes on and on.
Here are 2 questions for you:
1. What is a complaint that drives you crazy?
2. How do you handle people who are chronic complainers?
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Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution
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