As a conflict resolution consultant and accountability coach I help my clients reduce conflict in the workplace to improve their working condition.
This article will give you ideas on how you can react the best way that you can…even to bullies. You may not always get the results that you want but you will feel better about yourself.
We all hear the words stimulus and response.
- The stimulus is something that happens to us…
For example when someone speaks in a sarcastic way. - The response is how we react to something.
In this example it would be how we react to the sarcasm.
I’d like to add creating a gap to our equation. This is where you decide how to react. I always suggest that we take a breath and pause for a quick moment to decide what you want to say to the person.
You can react in the following ways when you create a gap:
- Use sarcasm
- Ignore them
- Take revenge
- Let it go
- Thank them
One of my favorite stories is the rake story. You go to a neighbor to ask him to borrow his rake and he says, “No” Next week he comes to your house and asks to borrow your shovel. You can either:
- Say “You’ve got to be kidding.”
- You can give it to him with a sarcastic comment such as, “I’m better than you”
- You don’t say anything and show him a mean look.
- Or you can ask him the reason why he did not give you the rake and give him the shovel without any hesitation.
I recommend that we ask ourselves, “What is the best way to respond so that we feel good about ourselves?” It does help to let go of things that happened yesterday and to give up revenge. Keeping score takes too much energy.
We usually have more ways to respond. We don’t have to get defensive, be sarcastic, take revenge or suffer in silence. Of course we don’t always respond the best way we can. Take a moment and ask yourself what you learned about your response so that you don’t repeat this pattern. It is better to pull back and not push someone when they attack you with sarcasm.
I hope that these tips will help you take your communication to a new level. The next article will give you tools to use during tough conversations.
Until next time, this is Joyce Weiss and remember, “You get what you tolerate!”
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