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Computer/Internet Addiction Causes and Effects

2015 June 21

As you know I share articles from colleagues from time to time.  This article written by Mel Bellfield is extremely interesting.  Many of us are addicted to the computers and the internet and WE KNOW IT!  But what to do? blog cats working

Check out how your communication skills may be impacting your success at work at the end of the article.

Computer Addiction – A Worrying New Problem
As we all know, computers and the internet have transformed the way in which we live and work. In many cases, this transformation has been for the better. It is a rare business indeed which could conduct itself without the aid of computers nowadays! However, the internet can also be a source of problems within the workplace. Browsing the internet during ‘downtime’ or even during work time can become problematic, productivity-wise, and measures like restricting the use of certain websites are likely to cause conflict between managers and workforce.
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Can We Really Have Tough Conversations With Our BOSS?

2015 June 14

cartoon criticize you in publicGlad that you decided to find out the answer which is…It Depends!  Some bosses are open and welcome constructive feedback while others are so full of ego and don’t encourage an open dialogue.  I just returned from presenting several workshops at the US Chamber Institute in Madison WI.  It was a real privilege speaking with men and women who work in chambers or associations throughout the USA.  

One of the sessions I conducted was “Managing Upward.”  I posed the following question to them…”What are some or your challenges with your boss or upper management?” 

Here are some of their responses:

  • The boss not being available
  • There is no follow up on issues that require swift action
  • Not dealing with conflict and letting things slide
  • Meetings which waste our time
  • No accountability with the team
  • Not setting expectations and no one knows what they need to be doing
  • Not having trust with my boss

Ouch!  Is that enough?  The list was a lot longer and you will find more scenarios in future posts.
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Travel Can be Dangerous: Select Compatable Companions

2015 May 24

This new series on “Working with Jerks” is really speaking to many of you.  I have received more private emails about readers’ nightmares concerning difficult people in their personal and professional life.  Let’s see if you can relate with this story.  I will be asking you to share your ideas on how you would have handled the situation.

George’s Travel Nightmare

George went on a trip to Arizona with an alleged good friend of his…Jim.  George came down with the flu and could not participate in the side trips.  George had a high temperature and was upset that he could not partake in the activities.  Here comes the DRAMA!  Can you guess what Jim said to George?  If you guessed that he was sensitive to George’s situation, you are wrong.  Each day Jim said, “George you missed such great experiences.    I can’t believe that you wasted your time sleeping instead of pushing yourself.”  This trip ended a good relationship.  George saw another side of Jim.  He could not continue being Jim’s friend after Jim showed such insensitivity. 

Joyce, What Do You Think?
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When You Work With a Jerk Story #4

2015 May 17


conflict frustrated lady putting paper to her headHave you ever worked in an environment that seemed more like high school…with bullies, rolling eyes, gossip mongers, and mean kids? I help my clients turn their toxic environment around and help them feel comfortable during tough conversations.  This post describes an email that I received from one of my loyal readers after he read several of the past posts on working with a jerk.  I did not make this up!  Names were changed to protect the innocent. :)

Todd’s Story
Todd is a sales rep for a mid sized firm.  He received a promotion for selling the most products in the company for the first quarter.  The leaders wrote Todd’s name on a huge recognition board in the lunch room.  Can you guess what happened next?  If you guessed that someone erased Todd’s name from the board…you are correct!  The horrific part is that no one at Todd’s firm addressed this mean spirited act. 

What Would You Do if You Were Todd’s Boss?
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“Trying” to Communicate with Younger Generations

2015 May 3

ask all generations to help 8One of my clients sent me a question about a conflict that he was experiencing.  Let’s see if this sounds familiar with some of you. :)
He felt that social media was impacting the social and communication skills for his 15 year old son.  He was  concerned because his son had a difficult time speaking at dinner or with the family.  Of course this is typical of teenagers anyway.  There is something that goes even deeper.

So Joyce, What Do You Think?

Think about it for a moment.  When teens text with their friends, they can edit their comments if necessary.  I wish that we could edit our verbal communication at those times when we make huge communication mistakes!  People who text need to use their mouth to communicate also or else this could be a huge issue in their future.  People need to get along with others in the workplace or else there will be huge conflict.  Face to face communication is something that we all need to improve upon.  Texting is great.  I love using it especially if I want to stay in touch with my family.  Texting along with verbal communication work well for me!  I’m not saying anything that is new here but I decided to bring this up because I’m hearing more discussion about this issue. 

What about you

1.  Do you see verbal communication go down the tube with younger generations?

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