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“Trying” to Communicate with Younger Generations

2015 May 3

One of my clients sent me a question about a conflict that he was experiencing.  Let’s see if this sounds familiar with some of you.
He felt that social media was impacting the social and communication skills for his 15 year old son.  He was  concerned because his son had a difficult time speaking at dinner or with the family.  Of course this is typical of teenagers anyway.  There is something that goes even deeper.

So Joyce, What Do You Think?

Think about it for a moment.  When teens text with their friends, they can edit their comments if necessary.  I wish that we could edit our verbal communication at those times when we make huge communication mistakes!  People who text need to use their mouth to communicate also or else this could be a huge issue in their future.  People need to get along with others in the workplace or else there will be huge conflict.  Face to face communication is something that we all need to improve upon.  Texting is great.  I love using it especially if I want to stay in touch with my family.  Texting along with verbal communication work well for me!  I’m not saying anything that is new here but I decided to bring this up because I’m hearing more discussion about this issue. 

What about you

1.  Do you see verbal communication go down the tube with younger generations? Read the rest of the article

Working With a Jerk: Story #3

2015 April 26

This is the 3rd article on the topic Working With a Jerk.  There will be more stories on this topic because my readers have been sending me private messages describing their experiences.  I have enough examples to cover 6 months of articles!  You will receive more examples along with the other topics on resolving conflict in the workplace.  Are you ready for this week’s true story?  I hope so because it is another unbelievable one.

Janis and her mom work together in a mid sized company.  Jim is a colleague of theirs and is known for his sarcastic and biting words.  Janis, her mom and Jim were talking at lunch when Jim pointed his finger at Janis and said,  “Janis your hair cut suits you and your outfits are very professional…not like your mom’s outfits.”  Did you catch your breath?  Yes, this did actually happen!

I have four questions for you:

1.  What would you say to Jim if you were Janis? Read the rest of the article

When You Work With A Jerk: Story #2

2015 April 19

Some of you may be thinking that these articles were written just for you especially if your workplace has colleagues who don’t know how to work well with others.  Then again some of you may not relate to these examples of working with a jerk because your workplace is conflict free…lucky you!

This week’s story is one that really rocked my boat.  A few of my clients were discussing Pam, a manager who is extremely competitive during  my Be Direct with Respect® trainings.  Pam will do what ever she can to show her boss that she is the star manager who deserves a promotion.  Pam secretly took a video on her cell phone while Todd, another manager was making a presentation to a client.  Pam hoped to show her boss that Todd’s thick accent was a communication issue.  The  other team members understood Todd and most importantly the client did too.  Pam wanted to shine and let her boss know that Todd’s “language barrier” was stopping the team from making more sales. 

I have three questions for you:

1.  What would you do if you were the team members who thought Pam was out of line? Read the rest of the article

True Stories About Jerks in The Workplace #1

2015 April 12

The next few articles will be about adults who act like children not playing nice in the sandbox.  I am NOT making any of them up.  These are true incidents that my clients have shared with me.  I have changed the business settings to protect the innocent.  

Bob and Gary are two colleagues who don’t get along.  The tension got out of hand when the following happened in their workplace.  Bob realized that no matter what he said or did, Gary would do his best to ridicule Bob at meetings.  One day Bob was standing by his desk and Gary walked by him and actually stepped on Bob’s feet! 

Here Are Two Questions for You:

1.  What would you do or say if you were Bob?

2.  What would you do or say if you were the boss?

Click Here to respond and I will share your ideas in a future article. 

Click HERE to read my article on Cruel Words Take Root in Us

I want to hear from you! Read the rest of the article

Complaints Reveal A Lot About A Person

2015 April 5

There are times when most of us feel empathy for others who make legitimate complaints about health, relationships, work etc.  BUT there are other times when the complaints are so outrageous that we want to walk away or yell at the other person.  I was at a restaurant the other day and heard the following conversations:

“My house is so dusty and I can’t wait for the crew to leave!” You may be thinking so, Joyce what’s the big deal? The complainer is so lucky to have the resources to have her house remodeled. Dirt and dust are part of the reality when we are able to have home improvement. It is what it is.

This person’s friend didn’t miss a beat and in a VERY whiny voice said, “I’m not looking forward to going home because I have to pack for our 3 week cruise.” Again, you may be more tolerant to complainers than I am. Read the rest of the article