I sure hope so! Fear is really False Evidence Appearing Real. The definition of FEAR is “A feeling of agitation and anxiety caused by the presence of danger.” I am writing about FEAR this week because the topic came up during my recent Communicate with Impact Trainings. Several participants stated that the concepts that they were practicing in the class made sense to them BUT they feared using them at work. Others in the class argued that NOT using the skills would set them back career wise. I’m sure you can guess what I shared after this energetic debate.
Reasons Why People Fear Using Be Direct with Respect®
- Making things worse
- Not saying the right thing
- Fear of getting fired
- Not being taken seriously
- Nothing changes
Click Here to read my short article Go From Fear to In Gear to learn action steps to use when dealing with a challenge.
How to Kick the Fear Habit
I always suggest that people who don’t like taking risks need to take small steps. Practice the skills with trustworthy friends or relatives. Start feeling comfortable so that you can use the tools when you need to do so. Bring home a real case scenario and discuss it with your allies. Plan the conversation by using
I am…When…Because.
You have heard me repeat this phrase that pays numerous times. We all need to have friendly reminders. Believe me, yours truly needs to remind myself because I am also caught off guard at times.
Do You Need to Speak With Someone to Resolve Issues?
- What is holding you back?
- What fear is stopping you?
- Is it false evidence or a real fear?
- What is a plan of action that you can use?
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Wendy Edelman says
I always used to say to my son when he was younger and afraid to try something new, get out of your comfort zone just a little. Keep pushing a little everyday to make your zone that much bigger. Make yourself a little uncomfortable. I can see using this same technique at work too. Thanks for the article. Good one!
Joyce Weiss says
Wendy, your message to your son is such an important one and I thank you for sharing it with my readers. A little discomfort is always welcome in my life also because that means we are growing. Risk can be climbing mountains or voicing an opinion. The idea is to take risks and not be content with staying the same! Looking forward to more comments from you, Wendy.